I'm willing to give this game a try, downloading now. If anyone would like to play with me that'd be cool, this is an mmo after all

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welcome to RoM!
if u have any questions, just ask...as much as we all like to gripe about the state of the game, we do like/love/play it, and there are some very knowledgeable(and nice) people around here...
ok ill take you up on that, for starters whats the US server all the cool kids play on lol.
thats a question that there is no right answer to(though there are a couple wrong ones), as each person has their own experience on their server. personally, i've met people from just about every server, and there are bad people, and there are good people. i like palenque(my home), but i would also point people towards osha and reni. artemis has a very large population, and govinda has some cool people also. i personally can't say much for the other servers, as i have not had as much experience with them. i'd stay away from thalia(AU) though(sorry guys, but u know it's true T.T).
my advice: roll a low lvl toon on each server you may play on. level a toon to lvl 15(takes an hour, max), during the time you would normally play. talk to people you see, as they will probably be people you will see often for a certain time zone(yes, newbie zones are a bit thin, but thats why i advise people to go to lvl 15, which by that time, you will have gone to one of the bigger cities in the game, Varanas). most servers have a custom chat channel. on osha and reni, it is "Trade", on palenque, it is "World" (just type /join Trade or /join World into the chat box, and hit enter). ask questions. the people that play on the servers(the people you see ingame) will be able to give you a much better answer about the state of the server than people who do not regularly play that server or that time slot. just because some random people on the forums said a certain server is epic, may not mean it's for you.
that was longwinded, and didn't really answer ur question, but i hope you understand
tl;dr: we all think our server is the best(besides AU, again, sorry T.T). we can argue in circles for years about it. you won't know if you like a server or not until you actually try it out.
btw, i will say the same thing about classes, combos, builds, statting, and guilds as well

...i will present you with the pros and cons, but i won't make the decision for you...