Thanks for responses. I am on a extremely quiet server, so while the guild has very nice towers for buffs, there is little activity, especially now the Xmas/New Year's period is over.
I used to ask questions but they don't always get answered, I guess because it is annoying and the older players just want to play their game, which likely they have done for years and a new person with nooby questions is ignorable.
Still, I like RoM, I'm grateful for the guild tower buffs. It is difficult enough solo, I played on pwi for many years, so I realise now I was spoilt, pwi has an in-game encyclopedia with every game item catalogued, it has an in-game friend matching database and due to the large player base there are several websites with information and the forums are very well organised with practically all non-alt factions having their own sites on shivtr.com.
Since, this is really a good game and younger than pwi, I can only assume lack of advertising is why not many are playing. Although, I must say, when you have just started playing and the first person to invite you to their home jumps on your toon and starts frottage your kneecap (since their toon is a dwarf) might be sufficiently upsetting for someone to quit.