So I downloaded RoM after I haven't played it in over a year. And I have it all downloaded but every time I open up the client I have to re-install the patches and then after they finish downloading the client closes and when i reopen the client it does it again. I did that about four times and on the 5th time the patches won't even download and I'm really pissed off and about to uninstall everything RoM related.
The problem you're having is related to trying to update an old RoM installation. As Noblewarrior said, the game client needs to download and install 50+ patches, and there's all sorts of room for errors and file corruption to creep in.
You would be better served to go here:
http://forum.us.runesofmagic.com/showthread.php?t=70835 Use the Depositfiles links that Inferiority provided (and updates when necessary) to download a complete set of installation files for either the full or slim client (do
not mix/match files between the two client downloads.)
Remove your old RoM installation.
Temporarily disable your anti-malware program, then install from the new files, start the client, and allow it to patch itself. There will be far fewer patches needed. When it's finished patchng (the Start Game button will light up), re-enable your anti-malware program, make sure that the Region and Language are set to USA and English, respectively, then start the game.