suggestions to help new players:
statting for non-weapon gear:
Use the blue quest gear/gear bags. They will come with two stats, and be 110 durablity, aka OD, for the 20% boost. Start with the 60 bag set and then skip the next set and do the following set. and repeat.
Buy the plussing jewels from the vendors in varanas lower west or obsidian stronghold glory square for gold and get those to +1 or +2. You should always have any gear you will use for 3 or more levels plussed 1. My success rate is about 1 out of 10, but that is still cheaper than dias/rubies/phirus tokens. And since they cost gold, I can use the dias/rubies/tokens for more beneficent purposes.
Do one or two minis for shells, to buy the shell gear for stats. Trade or use those. Goblin mines and Course of Terror are pretty good due to giving more arcane transmuter charges as rewards for completing them, compared to ATH and malatinas dungeon.
Do the dalanis events for 2(or single) stat fusion stones. Also the blood bath valley in av, broken bridge in savage lands, or naga event in weeping coast. Dalanis robber carts are safest, but dalanis is crashiest. Your level difference should help keep you alive enough to collect some rewards, without "winning" the event. This will let you transfer 2 other stats to the quest gear, preferably yellow.
This should end up with gear that is naturally OD, +1 for the extra hidden ghost stat, and 2 decent green stats it comes with, 2 yellow stats from either shell gear or bag drop accessories, and two worthless stats. This should help with normal questing. Any elites or mobbed quest will probably require assistance though.
Stating for weapons:
Use the blue wepons. Start at the level 60, and again skip one, improve one, repeat.
Buy the random fusion stone from spirit mages(one is in varanas lower west next to the plussing jewel merchant). It cost about 2k each.
Use the low priced quest rewards or mob drops gear(usually shoulders, boots, and helms) and the random stones to build three tier 6 stones. Use this to tier your weapon.
THEN, +1 or +2.
This is really the cost effective considering how you should be progressing. I know that higher geared players will say, "we can just farm instance so and so for the gear". Politely decline. You will usually die, alot. You will not usually get the entire set of gear, if any, you need. It is boring, but way more cost effective to level up, then work on gearing up compared to gearing up, then leveling up.
Of course, take any hand-me-downs
Finally, wings:
Try and get the best 6 yellow stats you can and put them on your wings, as you will keep these the longest.