Well said DK, i don't see the point of having 1% of all players on servers to be able to clear hardmode or HOE/HOW. There should be strat like TOSH/GCH/Belathis etc. If you can figure the strat and with well geared people, then you have a chance of completing it. The way it is now those that can burn everything, play only by themselves within their small circle of friends.
There used to be endgamers that would help other guilds to run through instances, now they want you diamonds, sell me diamonds, WTB diamonds, my question is, why sell them diamonds?? will they do anything for you since you are giving them what they want? What good is there to buy hardmode gear from these same people for 50M/100M a piece of gear unstatted and unplussed? some people might think they are doing you a favor in selling you the gear but why don't they just bring you on the runs?? control of the economy. But people tend to forget that those that control the game economy is the diamond buyers.
If you are not in the 2 top guilds on the server why get the latest endgame gear? you still won't be able to run the latest instance, since most your friends or guildies might not be able to also get it. Play with what you can get, learn to play your class, get experience in 2 or 3 level lower instances and use your diamonds on your toon or toons.
All servers have players that can run hardmode, not the latest but still can, find them, pug and run stuff, stack your gold, keep your diamonds for when you upgrade and have fun. Stop feeding your diamonds to the players that will not do anything for you or maybe throw you a bone once in a while.
Balance of the classes would fix the issue of the FOTM and people that are shunned because they do not play such a class will be able to get to play the class they love and desire to play, instead of being obligated to play a class they hate, for me it is rogue, never cared to play it, too easy and no challenge anyways.